Well, she sent him some photos, by-way of his phone, that he had someone at his job help him see (don't ask me). He said "she looks 65" and I ask him "what's that suppose to mean. I'm almost 68 and most people don't even guess I'm that old. Your sister is the same way". He told me that she is "pleasing plump", like he is. Funny, I mentioned to him about Lady GaGa doing the Half-Time Show at the Super Bowl and he said "now she is hot looking". From the time I first met him, he has always looked at young attractive women, definitely not women in his age group. He has told us that she is very "family oriented" with grandkids and great-grand kid and he is just the opposite. When I asked him, "what are you going to tell her if she asks you about your family/sisters?" He told me, "I don't want to even think about that." When I, with his sister/my wife sitting in the living room with me, talked to him yesterday, he was writing down stuff he wanted to ask her about/talk to her about, when they talk again. I just don't see him calling her. He just isn't that way. It's not "set in stone" that he will fly up to see her, but it's still on his mind. We wish him luck, if he does decide to go.
Was going to add this to my last post, but will put it here: Just talked to him and they have talked twice this weekend and plan to talk again sometime today. Now, what hilarious AND really gets BIL, is that she is now talking to him about sex they had years ago. She told him that she's been "fixed" because she doesn't want anymore kids. He was happy hearing that, but it really kind of shocking to him that she is talking so "openly" to him. It shocked us to, when he told us. "Guess there's nothing like Phone Sex without paying for it"...........I kiddingly told my wife. We both laughed.
If she's 65, she probably didn't need to say she's been fixed...I'm sure she's been through menopause.
Some definitely development have happened: He told her that he still loved her, but told wife and I it's not the same kind of love he had for her 40 years ago. Did he tell her what he told us? Don't know. He's been talking to her on the phone fairly often/weekly. She told him that she really wants him to come and visit her for a few days, but he told her that he can't financially do it. It's more like, what we know, he just doesn't want to spend the money to go anywhere. So, she ended up sending him a check for $350 for airfare. He is now excited about going. He sent her a recent photo of himself and she is fine with the way he look....."pleasing plump" as well. So, we will see what happens.
What do you folks think of this lady paying for BIL to fly to see her? What do you think of him accepting this money? Personally, I think it's wrong for him to accept the money since he is working a full-time, descent paying job and definitely not poor.
I'm noticing that nobody is making any kind of comment and/or opinion here about this lady and the money she sent BIL.
If she can afford it, and she's willing to pay his fare to see him, and he's not conning her into paying by saying he's broke, then it's entirely their business IMO... she may decide once she meets him again after all these years that it's money well spent...or not as is the case. I think at this stage in their lives they are able to make their own minds up about how to conduct their own personal affairs... That said, there's no way on this earth I personally would pay the fare of any guy to come and visit me...if he couldn't even find the fare to come and see me ..what would he bring to the table financially if a relationship blossomed?... No thanks lol
Well, as "personal affairs" go, he (BIL) is telling us about her discussing sex (they had years ago) with him on the phone that shocked him somewhat. To some extent, he has told us about their conversations without us asking him to do so. AND, I completely agree with you about "what would he bring to the financial table........." (above). Well, whatever happens, happens.
At this age, I can't imagine being shocked talking about sex with someone you actually did have sex with. He's not okay with her talking about it but he's okay talking about it with you and your wife??
Some things the old BIL is shy about and we think that's one of them. Also, remember, the last time they slept together was 40 years ago.
I'm a romantic at heart so I hope there is a happily ever after for the two of them. This can be a very lonely world to walk alone in no matter what age you are. This seems to be a "book" in their early lives that neither one read the ending of...and now they have picked up that "book" once again to see how it ends. I hope they both find a happy ending to this book Cody, because love is a wonderful thing no matter what season of life you are in.