Dealing With Obnoxious, Toxic, And Narcissistic People

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  1. Hedi Mitchell

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    Cody, Your post about how cool you were , and saved the party and how loved you were - has got a nothing to do with the title of the thread that was my point. :D
     
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    Well, when thought about, there are those that would think I was obnoxious or something like that, for what I said and did. Some would say, "it wasn't your Party to change", while others might say, "Classic Rock music at a Christmas Party, how could you?" or, even "how rude of you to even mention how the people were." Now, my SIL (wife's sister) could very well think that.
     
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    It takes a while to realize you’re involved with a narcissist, if you’ve never read about them or discussed them before. One of their characteristics (mentioned here) is always pretending having the better information or solution on any topic, and always turning the conversation around to themselves. Even when their information is proven to be flawed or incorrect, they never admit it and everything remains all about them. Even when they pretend to be your friend they are often just using you to gain access to, or provide a stepping stone for, an ulterior motive. You are just a tool in the game of one-up manship they play with life.
     
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    Some of us just do.
     
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    I should edit my post to say they always PRETEND to have the better information or solution. Although I did qualify it by saying even when their information is proven flawed or incorrect they never admit it.
     
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    Someone talking about me...
     
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    The Invisible Man returns.
     
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  10. Cody Fousnaugh

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    Well, Joe, there are those in this forum that "talk about me" also. There are some folks here that are very, very serious minded a whole lot. I know, personally, of two people that think I don't listen to them. I do listen, but both of them "think" they have the correct solution and don't want to hear mine. Sort of like, the more they say to me, "fix this or that yourself", the more I say, "I do very little labor stuff anymore". They simply don't want to hear the "I do very little" or "I don't".........period. Just like my SIL literally hates hearing the word "no" said to her.

    If a person is in a discussion with other people about something, perhaps that "person" will know more about what is being discussed than the others do. Take, for instance, rodeo, myself and my wife. We know about rodeo/horses and that's just a fact. Faye knows about ranching, and that's a fact. I know about farming, well, farming years ago, that is. I know about livestock. So, the list can go on, on what a certain person knows that others don't, or know much less about, and then, that person get criticism for being a "know it all", of which they perhaps do "know it all".

    There are those that dislike people who like being "the center of attention" and those that simply don't care and let a person be that way. And, there are those that wish they could be that outgoing.
     
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    As old Bernie, in Weekend At Bernie's, says..........."whatever"! LOL
     
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  14. Silvia Benoit

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    Outgoing is not toxic.
    BTW, if I don't feel "OK" in a place....party, city or funeral....I leave.
    Telling us your "your party experience" was only to let us think you are capable of turning around people's moods......LOL, I wasn't there.
    xx
     
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    When dealing with those described in the OP, have any of you ever been embarrassed by someone else’s actions? Perhaps it’s better described as sympathy pains but when someone does something absolutely asinine or maybe just out of their league, it makes ya want to go face palm, face desk or maybe hide in a corner somewhere?
     
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