When Friend Or Family Member Refuses To Understand

Ok, any "words of wisdom" from my last post of SIL wanting to come here and see us so soon? Just remember, neither of us want her to come.

 

@Cody Fousnaugh - if you start lying now, your going to be doing that forever.
A simple- sorry we are not up to company right now,we will let you know when is a good time for us. End of discussion no need to explain.

 

Well have to discuss this with my wife. My wife doesn't want to hurt her older sister's feelings, but then again. IOW, when a family member refuses to take "no" for an answer, just what can be done???
We've told her "no" for a visit once in Colorado, and guess what............she called us from local hotel to tell us she was in town. It was during the Pandemic, but she didn't care.

It's just like my BIL (wife's younger brother) told us, "you'll regret moving to close to her". However, we didn't think that a 6 hour drive was very close to us, but guess we were wrong.

 

After you’ve already told her you have plans and just before she shows up, put a sign on the door saying, “gone fishin’”, turn off your phones and you and your wife do just that. Go fishin’.

 

LOL, however, my wife definitely won't go for the "gone fishin" thing. Sorry.

 

So, without getting/being too rude or rude at all, just how do you tell someone "no" and have them understand and cooperate?

 

For goodness sake Cody - grow a pair- would ya? You either give in to her or you don't . Your are being a - push over .

 

Hedi, it's not ME, it's my wife. She simply doesn't want to hurt her older sister. My wife can tell me all kinds of things about her sister she doesn't like when her sister isn't present or on the phone, but when her sister is present or on the phone, nothing is said by my wife.

All my wife can say is, "she lives alone and gets lonely" and I will say back to her, "she sees her two daughters and grandkids and has Bible Study friends. Heck, she has more friends than we ever had." And, another thing that is 100% "for sure", she absolutely hates staying at home, even though her apartment cost her over $3,000 a month (all inclusive).

 

Since your wife is your main concern, as it should, be then y'all best open the door and let her in. Sorry outta help for ya.

 

A 2X4 usually works for me.

 

Oh, if she really insists on coming, we will allow it. Don't really want her to come, and it seems like the only way out of it would be to tell her that I'm sick. Don't want to lie, but when there no other alternative, what else can be done?

One of the good things about living in Colorado, we seen her (maybe) once in the summer. When the Pandemic hit, she was calling us darn near every day, until my wife told me to put my phone on Mute/Silent during the time she would call.

 

All I read was that Cody and his wife like mountains and moisture and green.

Move to West Virginia. You'll love it and your money will stretch far. Tell your SIL to visit and see if she wants to move, too.

I promise not to bother you.

 

Thanks for the reply, but "no thanks" wife and I both say. True, we like mountains, moisture and green, however, we also love professional rodeo and farm/ranch livestock.

 

there are some- that can not be helped..Cody is one of them

 

I love West Virginia!!! and there's lots of good deals on land. But research it you get to keep what is under what you buy.