Some take longer to get over things, others it doesn't faze at all. I think I may be one who takes a little longer to get over some things, like you, when it's something like taking my house, extreme anger and wanting to get even, for that one. I'm sure that I am not the best debater either and try to avoid one if I can.
Friendships should not be a struggle, they either "fit" or they don't...Find Out Why??? It's none of our business. I learned this smart saying years ago: What others think of me is NONE OF MY BUSINESS....
giggling. I had brunch with my middle daughter and some people from her church group and out of the blue, I found out one was a flat earther. When he started talking, I giggled a little because I thought he was kidding. Nope. But I didn't get into anything and just nodded. Inside I was amazed but if we got into anything, I could tell, nothing could change his mind. But he isn't hurting anything and he isn't going anywhere. So?